I was still up brushing my teeth and W said something silly I disagreed with and rushed out of the bathroom and smacked her on butt - I got a realy sly sexy smile from her. She told me not to do that...but I could tell she liked.
This is an example of what I've been trying to point out about having fun. These few moments that you can grab are priceless! What would she have done if you had thrown her on the bed and tickled her until she peed in her pants? Well, she might not be ready for that much contact yet, IDK, but you could start working up to that point, couldn't 't you?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!