Thanks SFO. During and after the separation I used to collect postive quotations and made them into a book which I gave my friends. I still add to it. As for coffee makers, I should have gone with a $15 Black & Decker! The Chemo specialist was in to see my Dad today and apparently they want to start him on a mild chemo therapy tomorrow which may help shrink down the cancer and make him able to eat again. She said it could extend his life four months if successful. My Mom phoned me and said "it could extend his life four months but to do what, lie in bed doing nothing for four more months?" I said "I guess the choice is Dad's to make" and she agreed. His hope is that he can get well enough to go home for a bit but whether Mom could even handle that is another question. It's a 24 hour a day responsibility and she's almost 76! You get 3 hours of nursing per day but that leaves 21 more hours. She can't lift him and he's not mobile. Private nursing is an option but I've talked to someone who was in a similar position with her Dad and, even with the additional nursing, she said it was the worst thing they could have ever done to bring him home. But, it's one day at a time. I've told Dad that when the option of going home is offered then we'll look at what's needed and if it's possible. he says that if it too much of a burden on Mom then he doesn't want to do it. We'll see.
