The dreaded "A". I am the same as you SIC. I know I shouldn't do it, but I have looked high and low for an OM. Just can't find it.

I don't believe I have put so much effort into looking for something that I don't want to find.

My W works with all woman in her immediate area, although there is plenty of opportunities to talk with men in the same building, but she is always in the same area of the other woman and customers. Not much room for an EA, but this is the only place I see a chance for her to have one. Other than that she is almost always home.

It is sad that I look for an A just to find something that would explain what the heck is going on.

Punchy scares the heck out of me, because those are the exact words my W said. In fact on the bomb day one of the first things out of her mouth was,"there is nobody else". Looked like a cover up to me.

She has also told me that not only is she not interested in me, she is not interested in any man right now.


H-40 W-38
Together-20
Married-12
boy-7 girl-3
bomb-9/17/10
No papers
live together
No affair