DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support 2

[habitacker]

My MC a good one? Ha. He made me go through the hardest part of all this.

My W went once at the beginning, never went back. MC told me he saw nothing in my W that said she was done. This gave me hope and confidence big time.

2 months went by, and like a dumb a**, I tried to find out where we stood, that is when I actualy heard the words "I want a D". I asked W what she had told MC 2 months earlier. She said " I told him I wanted a D". The only reason she went was to make me happy, and tell MC that. Somebody is not telling the truth, MC or W? In the sceam of things, I guess it doesn't really matter. I am really slowing down on MC. I am not getting much from it. If she isn't willing to go, and I am doing good with fixing my problems, why go?

You are a different story though. If she is willing,go. If it was me I would definately look for the pro-marriage MC. It amazes me that there is actually MC that isn't, what is the point?

When it comes to MC, I would be afraid of the Pro-marriage MC scaring her away with working on M pressure the same as what we would do by R talk. I am sure she won't be happy if MC tells her what she doesn't want to hear. So this is what I would look for, an MC that knows how to talk to both of you, without scaring her farther away. Of course, if anyone knew how to do this our problems would be solved. Well, that's there job, right?