WAW tearing up our family

[ironMan]

So, after looking at apartments she came back as was moping around and sighing a lot. I went to the gym.

When I came back, she said she feels like crap because she has to live in a crappy apartment instead of this nice house.

I validated that it wouldn't be fun to do that. She was just distraught all day and kept trying to hug onto me and cuddle up against me.

I left to go hang out with a friend.

Sunday morning, I woke up and felt REALLY happy. She noticed this and asked me why I was so happy. I told her "because life is good. I'm not in Africa with flies crawling on my eyeballs wondering where my next meal is coming from." She was shocked. She feels like crap and can't understand how I can be happy.

I left to go play basketball with friends. When I got back she said that maybe we shouldn't sell the house afterall. Now, she had been pushing for a few years to sell the house since we bought the house she grew up in and she was now trapped there by the economy. This was one of her complaints about ME. That I was preventing us from moving out!!!! I told her that no, I didn't want her to continue to feel uncomfortable in a house. And that even though we would be taking a financial loss ... that we should sell this house and get on with life. She was shocked. She was now wondering if we shouldn't keep the house because she wasn't going to be able to afford a nice place on her own.


Her moping continued until after we put the baby to bed. She came upstairs, kissed me ..... and then said "I'm sleeping in the guest room downstairs". I was shocked ... I had control of EVERYTHING all weekend. I had taken my life back. But she got me here ... I felt fear for a minute. But then, I let that wash over me and kind of looked forward to being able to read in bed for a change.


So, she doesn't know what she wants. But, I don't care what she wants ... and this confuses her more. I'm moving on with my life. With or without her. I'm going to have a great life .... and my daughter and I are going to have great times together. I have control over MOST of my life.