Situation Normal; All Flummoxed Up

[MHL]

CNS,

I hear what you want....

I simply want to move on from the place I've found myself in for too long.

but then it is followed by this.....

No more cake-eating for her.

This tells me that what you want is for her not to "cake eat" rather than "move on".

Now to discuss "moving on" and "moving forward"....which has been discussed many times before....

Do I tell her I've moved on?

Here is the thing about that......

When you are ready to move forward with your life without regards to her you will not care that she knows anyway....you will be too busy "moving"......make sense???

Things started "moving" for me when I got a new job, had all these wonderful people coming to visit me, loan modification came through....all this stuff going on and not once did I stop and say "Wow, I should really call my W and let her know." I was too busy living my life.

So the answer to your question is....

No.........because you haven't "Moved ON or Forward".......

......YET!!!!

But

YOU WILL.......give it time.....

It will come......remember "a watched pot never boils"

I think I may box up her closet (which is still full) and empty her dresser drawers to indicate I'm serious about moving on.

This is an action that you are considering but it is for the wrong reason......you are doing it "to indicate to her"....

that right there is not moving on.......

Move her stuff because you need the room or you don't want to look at it.....don't do it to ellicit a reaction out of her.

I agree with Mach.......you are way to close to her and her crap to begin to "move forward" in your life.

Hope this helps, here is the good news.....you're moving you just don't know it.........it is not until you arrive at that point that you realize that you were traveling all that time.

Hang in there.....

Cheers