Lighthouse lit till WAW comes out of fog.

[habitacker]

Thanks so much sandi. Everything you said is where I believe she is at, but because of the lack of communication I find myself wanting to know for sure.

You and I are both guessing. With the expeience you have of being a, or almost a WAW, and me actually being around my W, and everything we have learned from this forum and DB, I suppose that is the best we can do at this point.

I have this fear that someday she is going to end it because I never tried to talk to her, or try to fix the marriage.

If things do get better, I think it might have to be done the way it is going now. Because she keeps it all inside so much, she will just go day to day, and if things get better they do, and if they don't, they don't.

This is fine I guess, but it seems like such a shame when there is so much I have learned about us that should be discussed. Things that would help so much, and make things a whole lot easier.

MrBond has mentioned that his W has never had R talk in over a year. I don't know if she ever told him if she would work on the M or not, but maybe this is what he is talking about? I just live, make whatever changes I want to make, and see what happens.

I guess this "limbo" is good, things are not getting worse, but not knowing where we are at, or what we are doing really stinks. Although I understand it isn't her fault, but this really seems like such a stupid way to do things, especially when lack of communication is a huge reason we are here in the first place.