Alamo, sorry I didn't see this earlier. was on and off here today but didn't have chance to read to many sitch's.

So, IMHO...if you go and remove her name from the bank account you are telling her that you are starting to agree with D. If it really bothers you that she has her own account, go get your own account. leave joint one alone right now.

And again, IMHO...being paid from your wife for housework just seems all wrong. She is trying to show you that you are not man enough for her..(SORRY) I think if I had to tell my H that I would pay him for doing housework i would secretly be rolling my eyes behind his back. And again, taking money for things like this would show her one more reason for a D.

Gosh...I read this and think how horrible women can be....but I do think in all reality we want a strong protector for a H. Someone that is not needy and can stand on their own two feet.

I know finding a job can be so tough at times. But I think you gotta find something other than working for your wife.

Anyways, this is JMO. I don't mean to sound mean or hurt your feelings. I am sorry if I did.

Hope your night goes well.


Me:35, 2 kids from PR
H: 37, 2 kids with me
T: 15 years
M: 8 years in Feb.
Second walk out: 14-01-2011
H had PA: 2007