Lighthouse lit till WAW comes out of fog.

[habitacker]

LRT or piecing? Not really sure. I thought I was in LRT. W told me she hasn't loved me for 3 to 5 years, doesn't need me, and wants a divorce, nothing has been said since about R or M.

She went to MC once at the beginning of all this over 4 months ago, found out later that it was just because I wanted her to. She just went to tell MC she wanted a D.

I am very thankful for all the postitive things about our sitch that you mentioned. Also I find it positive that she has not done anything as far as moving on with the D. This is where I am confused. What am I actually supposed to be doing?

Sometimes I have the feeling that she is waiting for me to do something, but I don't trust that feeling. I have been dead set against going to her with R talk.

I have said many times that my W keeps everthing deep inside, avoids any confrontation. This has a lot to do with what got us here. I am sure most LBS's can see how there W tried to get through to them after the bomb, it opened their eyes. I look now, and still can't find anything, that is how deep she holds her feelings in.

Because of this, I feel my W will never come to me with R talk. The urge may come, but she won't do it.

I would love to say I have plenty of patience to wait her out and have her come to me, but I fear she won't, not because she doesn't want to, but because she avoids it and hides from things like this so much. For example: Has never argued with me about anything in 20 years, although I tried to get her to.

But then again, she might just be done. I don't know where she stands. If she actually wants the D, why are we in limbo? Which again brings the question, LRT or piecing?