Dixie, it sure sounds like you are doing the right thing!
As far as overthinking - what's he doing? - that is sooo difficult. A mind is a terrible thing. I wondering mind is even worse
You have to turn that back on him. He has some interest, right? He hasn't filed and has said he "misses you" so there is something there.
I agree with everyone here and make him want you.
You do that by GAL. It is sooooo hard to do but I have to say, every time I've done that, my W has responded positively. When I don't contact, she does. When I avoid, she interacts.
Baby steps? Yep. But positive steps indeed.
Like I said, it is very hard. You want to fix this but remember it is a marathon and not a sprint. Hopefully you will be "working" on this marriage the rest of your life. Don't be in such a hurry to fix it in a day.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
