A slow turn

[Bolt]

one last little thing about the texts.

I've been thinking long and hard about this one.

First - there is nothing going on. I'm 1000% convinced of this. Other family members are this convinced and KNOW that she has no time, desire or need to have an OM. This guy is simply a sounding board that is her best take on what guys think. As a matter of fact, he has wanted to contact me to help. He's been my biggest champion. He's in a committed relationship as well. I totally trust my W with this.

Now the hard part. I find I get into trouble when I let my mind wander. I think into things waaay too much. I make something out of nothing. THAT could backfire and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. I could actually push her into him if I keep calling EA!

So I have to stop looking at records. I know there are still going to be texts and I don't care. I just don't want to know about them anymore. It's that simple.

NOW- I'm not turning a blind eye either. Once she gets back, I am going to talk about her keeping me in the loop. Something she has always done - heck she shows me a bunch of texts too. I want to tell her that if it even REMOTELY starts to head in a bad direction to let me know.

We're both very open about this. I've had an EA with an assistant and told W about everything. I now see the pain I caused and will NEVER do that again. I think once we heal more, she will see the pain and either cut it off or cut it back. I really see that she is using this person as a sounding board/friend.

Another thing that convinces me is her Mom flat out asked her, when we first brought up D - is one of you having an A?! (She used much more colorful language) W said that she didn't think I was and said that she wasn't. She said she had way to many other problems to deal with than to deal with another man. She said not only that but she wasn't interested in anyone. That wasn't really the problem in our R. It wasn't that she was looking for someone else to find attractive. She wanted our sitch to work but felt we were running out of time.

anyway...I appreciate the comments as always.

I just feel we're on the right path. Don't let me stray!!!