Denver - Just catching up with your sitch. I'm sorry you are having bad time. Remember....our spouses are aliens right now. THEY don't know what they are doing even tho they think they have their _hit together. They don't. Buried issues from childhood re-surface in adulthood.
It's totally gut wrenching I know to find that our spouses are possbily with other people. When I found out my H was on every free on-line dating site there is (accounts are disabled at the moment), I felt sick for weeks and months. To be so easily dismissed just messes with your head. I'm pretty sure he dated and is dating now.
Just remember we are all here for you. STAY STRONG. Re-group and focus on those fab goals you listed earlier in your thread. You have made me take a second look at them. You will be the winner in the end no matter which way it turns out and I wish nothing for the best for you because you deserve it.
Sending you hugs!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11