One shi***y week last week. Tuesday W went off about the kids being unsupervised at an evening church meeting I attended.

Wednesday she engaged and baited me with kid talk. I stupidly took the bait following the intro of the OM to kids and her accusations about me neglecting them. I didn't argue. I kept an even tone and said that I was still here. She formally trotted out the ILYBINILWY and I mistakenly disputed her version of events because she finally got the best of me.

I want my money back from her therapist because she is in the same place she was when she dropped the bomb 16 months ago. I have realized this is likely the place she was in when we met 13 years ago. She's full of anger and hurt. I feel sorry for her until she lashes out at me and accuses me of being a bad father.

I set a casual meeting for my nonprofit board at a restaurant on a night when I didn't have my kids. She had one of her many night meetings for work which I missed on the new calendar and she assumed I'd take the kids for her. I have made a point to do this for every hair and nail appointment she's had as well as her work meetings, but I couldn't get out of this important meeting I set up.

She texts the following day calling me a liar. She apparently saw an ad for a ladies wine night at the bar that same night. There was wine, but no ladies. She followed with 'you'd rather not be with your kids'(assuming I was bar hopping), which infuriated me. I emailed her saying that my meeting went well with 12 other board members and attached the trailing email with my invite and several RSVPs from the week prior - as evidence of my legitimate meeting.

Of course, no apology. The new year seems to have amped up her efforts to pi** me off. I am now trying to figure out which way to go. Do I tell her I've moved on? Or do I maintain a happy face while being fed sh*t for another month. My interactions with her have been increasingly negative and I struggle to keep calm. I really don't want to deal with her altered view of reality anymore.

I love my kids, but their activities are keeping me in too close contact with my delusional W. I feel I've made it to the end of my rope and I'm trying not to hang myself. Her periodic makeout sessions with me were likely done from guilt (and drinks). She's still unable to acknowledge her role in the marriage's failure and is content laying it at my feet.

I feel I've tried every angle. I'm not fixated on the time in this situation, but I won't end the year waiting for her again. I've made alot of mistakes, but I have learned much. I want to let her go completely, but I must see her weekly and speak to her nightly because of the kids.

So I stand at a crossroads where few have been strong enough to find themselves, yet I feel very vulnerable still. I give myself much credit, and I realize I must limit further exposure to her fits.

I can no longer keep up appearances. Her employers call for her here at the house at night and weekends. I've told them she's out. I'm considering telling them that she no longer lives here. I'm not going to lie for her anymore. She has successfully lived in her fantasy for too long. I think I may box up her closet (which is still full) and empty her dresser drawers to indicate I'm serious about moving on.

I guess I'm seeking guidance from anyone who's met this place. I really don't want to set myself back any further. But the actions I'm considering are not done from spite or shock. I simply want to move on from the place I've found myself in for too long. No more cake-eating for her.