New to this community seeking advice 2

[JR09]

My H did everything to leave except take the final step to file and make it legal. There is NO one from this board that encouraged me to stay with him, they said I should move on. But for me as long as he could not take that step to get rid of me I wasn't going to either. Quite honestly, I never stopped loving him but there were plenty of days I had to dig deep to keep my love alive. There were days the pain was so bad I was physically ill.

WCW,

Your quote really fits me to a T. I love my W with all my heart. I do my best to not react to the venom that she at times spews. If I reacted to all the negative stuff, I'd be divorced a long time ago. And so my focus shifted from fighting my W with every word she said to fighting my inner self to help me not harbor grudges and negative thoughts.

Sometimes I truly believe we self defeat ourselves with our inner talk. Negative thinking often lead to negative actions...and BAM...DBing goes out of the window. That's why DBing has to remain the main focus whenever I engage my W. Not easy, but that will one day bring blessings...

One day I pray I will be just like you WCW. One day I hope to be with my W again. If you can do it, surely I can also stand a chance.

Thanks for the encouragement.

Joel