Navy,
If you miss your kids, go see them. Remember, they miss you. But, don't let your W think you are there for her or to beg her to fix the M. Make sure to let her know that you are there to see your children and DB your *ss off the entire time you are there. Don't push her into conversations about the M or the future. Don't beg, plead, cry, or say "I love you." Every time you say "I love you," it reminds her that the feelings are not mutual right now. Not to mention, when you stop saying that, she will have to wonder why. But, please man, if you want to see your children, go see them. Then need their daddy and you need them!!!

B.I.T.S.

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...