New to this community seeking advice 2

[JR09]

I've lost so much trust and faith in him. I don't think very highly of him anymore. Did you go through this? If so, how do you get through that piece?

Lost,

Hi again. Great to hear from you. Looking at your quote, I have to say I am the one who was the bad guy. I think my W probably said those words herself. If you were to mask her, she probably would agree with you about the loss of trust and faith, the lack of respect...


I am just very proud of my W that she found enough strenght to say "enough is enough, I refuse to put up with Joel's crap anymore !!!" And she left with our kids. First I was mad when she left. Then I put myself in her shoes and understood the reaction: " no more crap". I later told her a year later how proud I am of her. And I still am. I take responsability for all the reasons that pushed my W to leave.

Now, I have made some serious changes, and I am glad. It's now a matter of hoping my W also acknowledges those changes as well and maybe dares to be vulnerable enough to approach me, engage me in a positive way. I certainly am not there yet, but I cherish the thought that if my boys recognize how much I have changed, then maybe my W could do the same as well.

Again, Lost, remember: if YOU change, your H will change as well. Strive to regain your kindness. Purify your heart, and I promise you will see your H in a different light.

Don't quit, Lost. I'm with you all the way.

Joel