Finding out that an affair went physical is perhaps the absolute worst thing that can happen. Up until now everything has been words, and maybe not real, more like a test.
Now the devestation of the 'real', and the pain.
A couple of things, the information you have, is it accurate? To be honest it is in your best interest to assume it is, affairs are highly likely, but you also want to make sure it is 100% true, not just 100% likely.
The other thing:
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Why am I going through this emotional torture for this woman???
My take on getting through this, is you aren't. You aren't doing this for her, you are doing this for yourself. You are doing this not to be cockold or a doormat, your doing this not because she didn't live up to her vows, but because you can live up to yours.
Marriages can survive an affair, they can become stronger afterward...that's the hope Denver, that's where your hope should lie.
It can be done Denver,you can do it, despite how you feel at the moment.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
