The day after we last played TT, I e-mailed XH saying I enjoyed playing and that I was planning to visit his mother on her birthday next week. I wrote “If you are planning to celebrate in her apt. (kitty) and I could come at the same time and it would probably feel more like a party for BOTH you and your mom............If you’d rather celebrate alone with her, we can visit another time. Just let us know what you’d like to do, OK?”
A few hours later XH replied: “When I play a sport, I like to stay focused or I won't play well. So, sorry if I stay in the moment when we play, but…..if I don't, you'll walk all over me! ……………..And thanks for dinner…nice place. (He had treated 2 weeks ago so I treated this week.)
Thursday the 21st sounds good to see Mom. …………. I will bring in some cake and meet you there at 6pm? Are you off on Thursday? Are we playing TT next Wed? I don't think we'll stay long, but it will be nice nonetheless.”
So…………it sounds like on some level XH realized he was irritable while playing TT and actually apologized for his cranky mood. That’s a BIG change for him!!!!!! It’s also interesting that one month after XH chose not to be at his mothers while I was there on Christmas Day, XH and I will be together celebrating her birthday at her apartment. Hmmmmmm. Interesting…………It will be interesting to see if this attitude change lasts, or if he runs back into the tunnel…..I sense that the change is related to a change in his R with GF#2. Missher may be correct that XH, being a Mr. Nice Guy, felt caught in a catch 22 with me when he was/is? Involved with GF#2.
At 7:40pm last night XH e-mailed me paperwork from the arborist we’d hired a few years back……he e-mailed me on a Saturday night! That’s unusual for him since the bomb. I’m guessing he wasn’t with GF#2 and it appears he was thinking about me. ☺
Hard to believe XH served me with D papers and would barely speak to me 2 years ago. This is the difference 2 years can make.
