The way out of these patterns is to recognize when it's happening, and in my case listen to and validate my W, when she's complaining, and be more willing to share what's on my mind, particularly with regards to what's going on in the R. I'll need to work on breaking the pattern of withdrawal and protection, and staying with conflict.
CL
I dunno, CL -- this still sounds like more eggshell-walking to me.
