I am not saying I didn't have transitions. I've had many. I had begun to realize why I had done the things I had done. While taking full responsibility for my actions I could make the connections for why I made the choices I made. I started thinking along these lines long ago.
Since H's MLC it has become even clearer to me. That came from looking in the mirror. Still doing the work and expect to till I'm six foot under.
I did not have a crisis that caused me to turn my back on family and friends at any time through out my life, at least not yet anyways.
No, I don't see all actions as abusive. I don't believe that my husband went through intentional abuse in the least. He lost his father at 9 and his mother was devastated and didn't ever get past it. That much he could remember.
I believe where the MLC comes in, at least in part, is that he does not correlate the pain that was not dealt with or expressed from that, to what he is going through now.
