Scared and Alone

[JR09]

Lost,

I read thru your posts as well. I learned thru the 2.5 years since my W left that I must detach and I must Get A Life (GAL).

Detaching happens when you don't let yourself be entangled in your WAS's drama. You still llove the WAS but you don't let yourself being sucked IN the drama. Kinda take the high road, empathize, be compassionate, but don't respond tit for tat.

GALing is definitely a must. It took me months to learn this, but it really will put a smile on your face and make you a much much better person, hopefully void of any ill feelings and bitterness. Not easy to do but that's the goal, at least for me...

Go to dinner with friends, go to the gym to blow off steam, have a battle rythm, do something because you deserve to be happy. Make yourself happy. And you can do all this without spending a lot of money. If you change your countenance, the WAS will see it, and you keep showcasing the new YOU!!!. Like it says in DB: if one changes, the other one MUST change as well.

Keep at it, Lost. You can do it. You really can.

Joel