I love all this exchanging of ideas on my thread. Sorry I wasnt here to join in.
Let me just explain to some that I never ever said one should not get angry. If anyone didnt going through this, I would be worried about them.
And in the beginning, angry I got and a whole host of other feelings, too.
And then, along the way, I was able to process those feelings.
I used them to grieve, to propel me forward, to learn and grow.
I always said I hated what my h has done. I never used MLC as a free pass for him. He is ultimately responsible for his actions. But through grwoth and understanding, I am able to still love my h.
I have forgiven him, for me. That was a necessary part of my journey.
I have written many times of the conversations between my h and I. And you can see without a doubt that something is broken in him. And it is because of this, that I have let him go with love and compassion.
His confusion and his choices do not have a bearing on how I live my life.
But, this is a man I have loved for 30 years. I know no other way than to pray for him and hope that he finds happiness and peace.
I continue to strive to learn and grow and live my life on my terms.
