hello sad to be back, but at the same time comforted by the knowledge there is a place to fall. my husband and i have been together for 18 years and married for 15. we have a nine year old son. this is the 4th time my husband has asked for a divorce. last year, when i found this forum, he was intent on splitting. it was a few months, before he finally changed his mind and gave our marriage another shot. the problem is that everything stayed exactly the same. we didn't work on anything and so a year later we find ourselves in the same place. he says he loves me and cares about me, but is not in love with me. he says the only thing he knows for sure is that he wants to live alone.
a bit of background.... we met while living in 2 different states (pretty far away) and even after we got married kept my city apartment and his house in his state. he tours for a living so is away alot of the time, which has always suited us both as i have a career that keeps me busy. after the birth of our son, which coincided with my parents becoming ill, we gave up my apartment and moved upstairs in their place to help them. we still went back and forth alot between states until son started school. we bought our own house but have rented it out until a few months ago our living sitch has been very stressful and we have never really been just the three of us on our own. as far as his family goes, his mother left when he was very young and his father has been married multiple times. he has never dealt with any of these issues.
now that we find ourselves back here, he has moved into our new house, while we stay with my parents. the plan is to fix the house so that my son and i can move in and he will get his own place. it is heartbreaking, as i have dreamed of the day we would finally get to be on our own and be able to just be together.
anyway, i'm sorry to be back and the biggest lesson i learned from this, is that if you are given another chance..keep the changes going and pay attention to your situation.
