Thank you for your support. I'm so sorry H is living w/OW. I know that is so painful. Are yall still married or D? I'm praying for you too. For us all everyday. GOD hates Divorce. This is not what HE wants for any of us. This I know.
My Lab passed away 2 yrs ago. She was 13 yrs old. She was just awesome!!! She stayed connected to my side. When I cried she would jump up and come sit right next to me. Nearly killed me when we had to put her down. H was there for that stayed w/me for 3 days.
So, it was hard to open my heart to this dog. We got her together and she has been going between the two houses. He wanted her for his BDAY. So, I know unless he says I can keep her. That I will have to let her go too. Im preparing myself for it..thats gonna kill me.
So, for now I cant think of it. But, Labs & Great Danes are awesome dogs! They love people and are real sweet!
Love & Prayers my friends!
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
Are yall D now? I'm so sorry sweet friend for your pain. I feel for you deeply. Cause, I'm in it too. Its hard for folks outside this..to understand. Its like a death, but I think worse!
I like the shake idea. Ill look into that at Whole Foods today:) FOBD will like that! LOL
Sweetie, if your bones are hurting you. That scares me..go to the DR. and just get a quick check up. Okay?? He maybe Rx you something stronger for Calcium or something.
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
I will do a little better with the responses to you, rys and Forrest tomorrow or Monday. I'm not feeling very well, and I posted to you and FOBD because they felt urgent to me.
I do want to say to you and rys-- You both have been at this a long time, you are both very intelligent and you really do know what to do, it's just doing it. And it is never a done deal. Even for successes, as Forrest and I both show, and lots of the successes who are real honest about their journeys. People are messy, relationships are messy. People screw up, it's what they do best. And it often doesn't feel fair that we are the ones trying to save it. That's why the 'hard line' type advice is so popular---because 'sometimes' it's the right thing, it's just not good onesizefits all, or first line of defense advice.
I'm babbling. I'll respond to your personal situations tomorrow or Monday.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Yes, H and i are still married. I feel the longer he lives with this woman the more in love they are going to get. I am really considering filing for d to protect son and i financially. I found a really good protein powder Cytosport Muscle Milk from Vitamin Shoppe. It's all natural, no colors or artificial flavors, made with real strawberries, if you like strawberry. they also have vanilla and chocolate Lots of vitamins and minerals too. My arm bones hurt on the inside by my elbow. Ive had this for 5 years it gets worse in the winter probably has something to do with less vitamin D in the winter. Where i live no sun exposure on skin in winter. Today this guy called my home phone saw his num on ID later, he was a good friend of h a long time ago. he lives by h now. I cant believe he had the nerve to call me. He was kind of interested in me before i was married. I have no interest in any relationship.
Hope you are feeling better. How is the weather where you live. by me its been bitter cold and snows every other day. But i still do my running everday even today when it was 21 degrees. I love it! Ive been staying in bed til like 12 noon a lot and i know its not good. I just dont want to get up. but once i get up i feel a little better. I sometimes feel my life is over because i lost my h to ow.
So, H texted me "Are you about ready for me to pick up dog?"
Me: no answer- ignored it!
H: "Hello"
Me: no answer-ignored it!
H then called on the phone!!! That's right yall!!!! It worked!!!
I answered real cheering cause, Ive had a really good day today
I answered. He said, Did you not get my texts. I said, oh you texted just now??? Sorry, Ive so busy I didnt see it.
Then he says, Can you talk do you have someone there? I said, I can talk for a minute what up?
He then just went on to say he could come by a pick the Dog up when he got off this morning around 2am.
I said, I dont mind keeping her a few more days. Plus, that was really late for me. He then said, okay that he will give me a call in a few days to arrange when he can get her. He said, I wont be off till Thursday..but, Ill let ya know before then. (Got the feeling his Days Off are booked??) He asked how the Dog was doing. I was real happy and told him about some of the cute things and the fun we have had.
He then, said tell her I miss her and thank. Then he just said, Bye.
That was it....Good news is he called when I ignored his text. Bad news....now I'm thinking about why/what he is doing on his day off now???
But, I'm focusing on the good part. But, I'm sad that after he picks of the Dog...I wont see her for awhile...Thats gonna be real hard yall!
Feedback???
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
Good for you Dixie. Sounds like you accomplished what you wanted.
Do not drive yourself crazy with thoughts of what he is doing with days off. It will make you go mad. Find something to do that will keep your brain occupied. It doesn't matter what he is doing....right????
I know it is so hard not to think about your sitch but you really have to try for yourself. Make your plan for the next time you have to talk to H...Prepare yourself..at least that is what I do and it seems to help. One day at a time!
Me:35, 2 kids from PR H: 37, 2 kids with me T: 15 years M: 8 years in Feb. Second walk out: 14-01-2011 H had PA: 2007
So, I just took the Dog out for a quick walk. Of course, thinking over the convo w/H. I'm feeling low now...yes, he called blah blah blah...but, I could hear in his how removed he was. Not to mention last Thursday(his only day off) he did come get her cause he was too tired??? I got the sense he wanted to come get her cause, he does not want to over here on his day off again. Which makes me think something is going on for sure. I'm starting to think he is already seeing someone???!!!!
I also now realize, when he picks up the dog. He has no reason any longer to have any further contact with me. As well as, I may not see my Dog again. It could be the last time..
I'm not crushed again....I was having a good day. I laughed today!! Several times even...I went in to work for a bit, took the dog w/me, I went and checked out the cute shops around town. Even picked up a few things for me! I stopped on the street to talk to complete strangers and enjoyed myself.
Now, here I am...feeling that H is not coming back EVER..I'm praying of course...I'm praying for him too...
But, jusst when I think this wound is healing over a bit...OUCH someone pulls the band aide off!!!
Feeling down....Church can't come soon enough...
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
Im glad that you got to talk to h and you have your dog to keep you company. Can you get a dog of your own? I haven't seen my h in at least 3 mos. we only text each other. h is living at my MIL with ow. It breaks my heart. I think you have a good chance of getting h back it doesn't sound like he is seeing anyone. My h gave ow engagement ring 3 yrs ago when he left the first time. But that doesn't surprise me he gave me engagement ring after only knowing me 1 mos. when we met. He is very impulsive. I have been waiting for a miracle in my m but I am losing hope.
