my h and son gave me necklace

[dixiegal]

Hi rysmom,

I was just reading the sitch. I'm sorry your going thru all this. But, dont give up...I understand that these dont usually work out the way they thought. Simply put..."The grass is greener on the other side, Till you realize you got mow that one too!" Thats some Texas wisdom...make sense??

You have to be the calm the one that when the OW and him start having issues. They will! That he can come back too...you have to hide your anger from your Son. You must put on a face for him. You do not want to make him feel trapped and dont want him going to his Dads telling him how bad your doing and angry you are. Right???

Easier said than done, I know. But, its the only way right now. I'm praying for you honey!

[rysmom]

The other day i emailed h and asked him the best place to sell my SUV and how much i should sell it for, because it uses to much gas. I told h the kind of repacement SUV that i want to get. H was always really great at selling and buying us used cars. Now i think i shouldn't have asked his help this probably is not good DB. Any input anyone? i think ill put it on craigslist or Autotrader.

[rysmom]

H told son to tell me he is researching about selling and buying the SUV yesterday.

[rysmom]

I know this is one of h favorite things to do for people is help them get the best deal buying and selling cars. He is really great at this.

[sgctxok]

Not quite well, but wanted to check in.

I think you are fine, men LOVE to be asked their opinions. After this quest, though, I'd back off and watch what happens. This is advice Michele frequently gave me.


Here is my first 'official' thread that shows. I don't know about the mechanics waybackwhen. I first posted in Jan 2001, but that doesn't show. Board issues were so different then.

This is for YOU. Don't exactly rememeber why I posted it, but I do remember reading a lot of Rumi. I hope it's useful to you, either way it's sent with love. You are a wonderful person, and a special DBer near to my 'anniversary'.

----


Twelve Signs of Inner Peace" (author
unknown) as it appears in Dr. Vandermark's book, "Wall Street &
Wildflowers":
The Twelve Signs of Inner Peace

Loss of interest in conflict.

Frequent attacks of smiling

Frequent overwhelming attacks of appreciation

Loss of desire to judge in judging others

Unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment

Tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than from fear based on
past
experience

Loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others

Loss of the ability to worry (a serious symptom)

Contented feelings of connectedness to others and nature

Increasing susceptibility to love extended by others as well as an
uncontrollable urge to extend it

Increasing tendency to let things happen
Rather than make things happen

--Author Unknown


"Let the beauty we love be what we do"

--Jelaluddin Rumi


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sg

[rysmom]

Thanks for the info.

[rysmom]

Im having trouble sleeping for the last month. can anyone recommend natural remedy for this. I woke up at 4am this morning.
Yesterday my h sent the plumber his friend over to repair my heat. I dont like the idea of h friend coming in my house. he is suppose to come back tomorrow to fix it but i texted guy and told him not to come. I got another strange call from my h old friend from 17 yrs ago on my home phone. I saw his name on the caller ID but he left no message. This guy lives by my h now and probably sees h with ow all of the time. it almost seems like h is telling these single men to call me to ease his conscience. This is so crazy. H is planning a trip with ow I and it makes me sad.

[sgctxok]

Oh girl, I'm sorry.

Hot milk with vanilla and splenda. 1/2 turkey sandwich. Hot bath.

Deep breathing: 4 counts in, 8 or more out--this one is the MOST effective (yoga).

Don't worry what other people see, nor about the trip. Maybe they will fall apart on the trip. Things like that happen.

Focus on living well, so you are at your best at all times.

[rysmom]

Thanks for the natural sleep suggestion. I have been listening to tony robbins cds, and he was mentioning the breathing exercises also .
This ow is outgoing, and charismatic. I can't compete with that part of her, that's not me. But she is not as attractive as i am, She is also short and i'm tall. I guess he wanted something different from what i am.
I feel that h and i having gotten further apart. When i spoke to Laurie 2 mos ago she thought i should continue some contact with h. Because h always answered his phone when i called even if he knew i was angry and he would talk to me. but i stopped calling him totally the past 2mos. it was just to painful. Now i feel he is totally gone emotionally to ow. He hardly calls my son anymore either.

[rysmom]

Do you think you have to totally let them go with no contact before they would ever come back?