ok...I keep going back and forth because she insists this guy isn't her type. Her mom is convinced that she is not having an EA. She flat out asked her and W said that not only was she not interested but she didn't want to deal with all of the baggage that comes with a new relationship.
She also told her mom that she wants ours to work. She's not sure it is but she wants it to.
I ended up talking to her today and she sounded upbeat and was asking ME about our R. We are planning on a move and she wants to know my feelings about it. I think deep down, she feels I don't want to move. It feels like a test.
I point blank asked her if she wanted the R to work and she said that sometimes it's different by the day. Most days she wants it to work but then other days WHEN I DO something that shows to her that I haven't changed, she's not sure she wants to.
I have to say, I don't believe there is something going on...yet. I told her that I didn't like it that the conversations are going on. I told her I trusted and believed her. I also said that I didn't believe or trust him. It's funny because she basically said, that I had to meet him to see that he is nowhere close to her type. She honestly looks at him as a chick with a guy's perspective. She has said on many occasions that he gives her perspective into me and the he is my biggest champion.
Guys, my wife has never lied to me in the past and we've been very open about everything in our lives. I flat out have to trust her and need some support on this.
What I am going to do when she comes home is have a heart to heart about the texts and tell her that if she truly wants to make this R work, she has to stop texting him.
Thoughts about that?
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
