Hi Brook,


YOU INSPIRE US ALL and I think your thread is great!!!

I don't mean to hijack your thread but what Scylla

posted here made me think a little and so I want

to ask for forgiveness now.

WOW SCYLLA what a list!!! Thanks for sharing this and

could you let us know where you got that list? It looks

familiar and I can't remember where I might have seen it.

This should be a sticky somewhere.


Makes me think of an exercise that would be kind of helpful

post MLC if we end up with that chance!


This list could be printed out and each spouse could highlight

or list things they BELIEVE or PERCEIVE to be part of your

spouses Mother or Father before you were married. Then each

spouse could fill out a second one for their OWN MOM and DAD.


That would help each of us dig into what is lurking in the back

of our minds on what PERCEPTIONS each of us has of each others

family.

Would that be too painful for some?

Would it make the other spouse feel not worthy?

Seems to me the pain would be relatively minor

compared to the pain we have all endured here.

Hiding everything in the closet, isn't that

what ended up getting us here?

MLC was going to happen either way but what if the MLC'r

is going to come back and haunt again say after

the persons initial Quarter Life Crisis!! (When my

wife had her QLC, I had no clue about any of this.)

It would be helpful for those that are now

the LBS here that are experiencing their spouses

quarter life crisis now so they at least have

a heads up on what may happen if the MLC'r

comes back too soon?



To me, it would be important to find the underlying reasons

on how some of the fears and motivations began to haunt us

during a critical time in our own lives such as a MLC.

If we don't look into some of these childhood issues,

are we asking to go through this again at the next life

transition?

WS