Newbie post What to do now

[JustStunned]

Thanks for the replies Scylla_Charibdis and Truegritter,

I have lurked on the MLC forum and read quite a bit. So much to pour over and try to assimilate. It is ovewhelming. I really feel more like weeping than screaming. Thanks for the support. I just don't understand how one can toss away 29 yrs with a few weeks consideration. I guess I have become the mother she ran away from. In her mind anyway.

She's 49, and she ran into an old crush from High School last fall. She made a big deal out of friending him on FB and telling her life story. His third marriage is crumbling. I am not ready to face my fears about that yet.

The W came over today "To clean the mess we made together" I think this is more about seperating the things she still wants than cleaning. It felt good to do someting together even if it is seperating our things. I kept neutral. She was heated a few times. I think she was attempting to provoke a reaction.
Her Aunt came with her. W will only visit if she has someone with her. She says she is afraid I will get violent. I think she belives it. I never have. Our agurments never went past raised voices and typically resolved within a day. I think it is important for her to believe I am evil and abusive. I helps rationalize her decision. Trouble is her support is buying into this fantasy. I will have a private conversation with her Aunt tonight. I intend to challenge the things she has been saying about me and show the Aunt I am leaving the door open for MC. Someone over there has to listen if only for a moment to myside. I have no illusions this will be kept private still I have to try.

I feel better just posting this THANKS