I am studying Abnormal Psy right now, the chaper I am reading in the textbook is discussing how when a person has a severe trama in their childhood (their example is the death of a parent, which my XH's mom died when he was 8 yrs. old), it is almost a guarantee that when this child is an adult they will have some mental illness, most commonly depression. Now, of course, there are exceptions to this rule and that is all laid out too, and they talk about other triggers that will cause it, such as a parent leaving, never attaching to a parent even if they are present, a parent with an addiction, etc. My XH had almost all of those things happen to him. And, although they don't use the term "mid-life crisis" the describe it to a "T" and say that is what happpens to a large majority of people who go through one of the above mentioned triggers. But, how these people handle their issues or what we call "MLC" is not the same but very much relates to how severe the event of the childhood was and how it was handled when it was going on. We all know all this, but it was so reassuring to read it in a textbook.
Here lies the problem with my H, he never really had any childhood traumas. I just wonder if he is a WAS and not in MLC. But he does many of the MLC things, such as rewrite our history.
I am so confused.
Lorie W47 H48 D16 M20 H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW
When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.
