I have done everything wrong....

[islander]

Thanks for all your advice. My wides XH just called and we spoke for 2 hours. We have a decent relationship. He said he was waiting for the right time to contact me bc he said he knew we were having problems but did not want to pry until he knew for sure what was going on.

My W dropped off my SD with him today and when they spoke, she admitted to having a limited PA with somebody. (I cleared that up for him, there were no limits). He told me that my W said she had taken my SD, his D, to see Christmas lights with him and his young baby, and that she was looking into buying a house. W had told me before that OM wanted to buy a house with her but tha she did not want to make that commitment. (is my W crazy.....yes....she has a mortgage with me and probably under and credit card debt...she was the primary on our loan....and OM owns a house with his wife....what world is she living in.)

I wanted to pick up the phone so bad and call her out or text her that she is a lying $&@!, but what good would that do. I know that I already knew that, I jet didn't always know what she was lying about. I did not call her, and I don't think I will let her know that I know either. Probably would be bad for her XH and me as well.

I thought about confronting the OM W, but what good would that do. My W made her choices. I think the OM W knows anyway, but I don't know how much she knows.

I am just floored right now. How can the person that used to love me so much disregard our entire R. I feel like Trash that has been thrown out only to be replaced with trash. Pointless.

I think this will help me on Tuesday if I keep my cool. Right now I think I could. I guess I am just as crazy for wanting to be with someome who would do this to me.

She told her XH around Christmas that she could tell I had changed and it was helping???? I remember Christmas it was the worst I ever had.