You've been getting some really good advice, except about laying down some law, and I 'partially' agree there. You do want to create a sense of that because you want to create this sense of self, but you do NOT want to say those words.
Example--I really like the no electronic contact. But you don't say "I will only accept..."; you just don't respond to the electronic, and you don't give an explanation, and if you're pressed and you really feel you have to, just be vague about it (Oh, I don't ever pay attention to that anymore, or Oh, I was busy).
My daughter went through anorexia, and your fast weight loss concerns me. I imagine it is possible for a woman to lose that much weight so quickly in a healthy way, but it isn't the norm, even when you're trying.
I'm glad you are close to God, do you have a church or women's group that you belong to?
You mention you're a 'rock star' at work, and that's good, that this isn't taking a toll on you there.
Take really good care of yourself, the folks here are giving you good advice.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
