18 Years of Marriage - Leaving in June

[habitacker]

You were pursuing. You were asking her out. You set yourself up for words you didn't want to hear. Ticks me off, because when I read it, it is like my W saying it to me.

You now have heard it, and it hurts. They don't want to be with us, they are done. This is why all we can do is be the best we can be, and maybe they will be interested again someday.

We are in a hole, any guy on the street has a better chance than us of being with our W at this point. We need to be the best we can be, the problem is there isn't much we can do when it actually comes down to interacting with W. It will just make it worse.

By asking her to go out, which is basically what you did, you set yourself up. You got shot down. Don't do it again, but since you did, when she said you should go out by yourself, you should of said, "ok,cool", and went, even though you don't want to.

She said, "We are not a couple". You replied,"Yes we are". By that response you just showed her that your not listening. She is telling you where she stands, you are arguing it and trying to make her change. Sorry, but it is not only your choice to be a couple or not.

Now you know what will happen when you pursue, or try to find out how things are and where you stand. It hurts, I also found out the hard way.

One good thing can come from this though. When I learned this is what happens when you pursue, and try to find out where you stand, it made me stop doing it. I got hurt everytime.