Harrier, My W was very firm initially in our reconciliation period. She said she is just going to continue to make good choices for US going forward... I did not check her phone, or question her about anything. I just watched her actions towards me. She did have to work pretty close with OM. These are a couple of RED FLAGS that I seen in my sitch. W would never say anything bad or negative about OM, One time she had called him for work and I walked in the room...she got real quiet and you could tell she felt guilty... When I set boundaries about "work only" talk with OM, she would always make excuses... Everyone talks about there family... I don't want it to be weird at work....
After this crap, I just knew that their was no way her heart could be "IN" this marriage and it was just a matter of time. But like I said, financially she just couldn't quit her job.
