I am after some clarification on the subject .. the 'staying friends' issue and the detaching... it confuses me a little.
so, after I'd said to him that I was now ok with us being separated, he replied saying he felt that was the best thing to do, and in reply to me saying "if he wanted to see me for dinner some time or just for a chat, not about 'us' but just as friends then he would know where to find me" - he said, "yes, I would like that, let me know a few dates next week when you are free"
to be honest, I didn't expect him to say that, and so quickly too, I was thinking more like "in a month or so" but I am now unsure about what to do -
do I meet up with him as friends and 'pretend' everything is fine or do I 'detach' and just not get in touch with him anymore??
I'm confused as I read in another post about MLC that we should always try to be friends with the mlc'ler and be kind to them - at the same time, I feel like I want to say to him 'you didn't want me in your life anymore so you can't have me'
does this make sense? I'm totally 50/50 about what to do next. I feel he's confused and lost and I want to help him, after all I do love him dearly, but I don't want to give him the chance to 'have the cake and eat it too' - get all his freedom to do whatever he wants but still have me in his life...
