One of the other Demon Dialogues mentioned in the book Hold Me Tight is the Deep Freeze. I call it the Winter of Our Discontent, after the novel. It follow a period of one or both of the other two Demon Dialogues, which I call Two Attorneys or Running for Cover. After awhile, the barker gets tired of trying to get a response, distances, herself and puts her energy into something else. The turtle, is happy to have peace and quiet. The M becomes an electric fence, and eggshell walking happens, where conflctual areas are avoided. This is the scenario of my M. I have sadness as I think of the amount of time spent in the season of Winter in my M.
The way out of these patterns is to recognize when it's happening, and in my case listen to and validate my W, when she's complaining, and be more willing to share what's on my mind, particularly with regards to what's going on in the R. I'll need to work on breaking the pattern of withdrawal and protection, and staying with conflict.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
