... and that's where my problem lies. Remove my husband from the conclusion, you say. Fine, so I do this; then what is the difference between doing this and just going with his wish to divorce and calling it quits?
Because you are giving him time and space to find himself. Time to sort through who he has become throughout his life without the constraints of a lifetime at his heels.
As Jim stated....it is HOW you let go, that matters...
Originally Posted By: Scylla_Charibdis
If I am not considering him as part of the conclusion then dissolving financial, property, physical, emotional ties, and living my life on my terms with our kids (whom I already parent primarily by myself), and meeting my very real need for emotional intimacy, affection and sex with someone else who IS willing to meet those needs seems more reasonable and healthy. Harbouring an unrequited love and continuing to live with my needs unmet, is not how I wish to live.
Having your needs met by another person is secondary to being able to meet your own needs.
That should be foremost in your mind....meeting your own needs.
