That is very true, but don't let yourself deny that many things were terrific. They wouldn't have stayed for such a long time otherwise.
Yes, they like to say that the marriage was always terrible, but that is their justification for running. I now get dreams about the sweetness . . . . And now my h has no consistent story on the story of the marriage. The thing that sounded the closest to both our realities is that it was a happy marriage, but he was unhhppy.
And as we know, that is not actually the responsibility of the other person. It is weakminded to think that another 'makes' you happy or unhappy. As far as I can see the poor man is now managing unhappiness more or less on his own.
