Ok sorta caught up apolagies for a bit of scan reading!
Sweet girl, go take a good long look in the mirror...
Your H is taking the right royal piddle and you are facilitating him doing it every day.. Hes turned you into his friend whilst he plays at being a teenager again. Your own fear of doing things wrong has kept you at his beck and call.
Time for the worm to turn I do believe. Mr Bond and a few others have elluded to what you must do but you have to take a stronger hold and make a plan of action. Its your turn to make your H jump to your tune a little, ok its sounds horribly scary but believe me after the first few tries it will become fun.. and if its not and and Mr DG doesnt take the bait then truly I think its time for you to think about your future and what you want..
I did exactly the same as you when Mr Rabbit went, we had gone to councelling and she pratically like yours gave him a ticket to leave.. at first I fell apart, panicked got myself in a right old begging, panicking woe is me end of the world state.. then I found DB and the rest is history!
Ok lets go back to scratch.. I'll add stuff here but I need you tell me more about what M was like before he left.. who made the decisions, what characters you both have etc..
First job for you that mirror!
What do you see?
Ok youve lost quite a few pounds but have you bought some new clothes? Does your hair need doing? When did you last get a manicure/pedicure? Now you have lost the weight do you need to get some areas toned up?
Secondly
What do you do for you? What do you enjoy? Did you give anything up for H?
The reason I ask is because atm if Im correct some of those things need doing, because you are spending too long still waiting for your H to contact and come home!
Now this might seem all a bit tough talking, but honey you have to seriously reclaim you back and start moving forward.
Other things:
Have you read about doing the 180's What detaching have you managed to do?
Now you might wonder where this all going so I have attached my thread to read below:
I have been with my H for over thirty years so you can imagine the wrench of suddenly having the love of my life suddenly walk out. It can be done turning yourself around, you just to identify things that you think need changing or you could do better at and we will find a way to make it a positive.. There is one big key thing here though, you are doing all of this for YOU! If you H finds it attractive and comes back its a bonus if not you are one georgous looking lady looking for a new love with a complete package of loveliness to offer!
And thats where I will leave it for now, if you have trouble sleeping tonight read my thread that will do the trick lol!
Take care and as the loreal advert often says keep reminding yourself you are so "WORTH IT"
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Rabbit
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
