"She pulled me in and gave me a kiss. What the hell is that! Is she trying to see if I am weak? What makes me wonder is she always asks "want a hug?"
Shaves this is script for walk aways... I'll give an example in my sitch. Wife initially tells me to move on (she already had) and says I should date so and so.... So I take my kids and so and so and her kids out for a day at an indoor playground. W finds out about it, flips her lid.. tells me she hopes I'm a good dad to so and so's kids.......
Later in the sitch... we get together and talk about splitting up assets.... We talk all day.. by this time I am happy and ready to move on with my life. I am cocky talking about who I'm going to date.... By the end of the day she was making out with me and said she hadn't felt that way about me in a long time...
Closer to divorce.... She goes through my drawer and finds condoms.... Keep in mind she has been in an affair for at least 6 months already... She calls me, and absolutely flies off the handle....
I don't know if your W is having an affair, but the texting, facebooking, and the "move on" and other statements that you mention does point to the presence of another man...
The reason she hugged and kissed you is because she wants to be in control... She may feel you slipping out of her grasp.. People only "want" what they can't have... They want it even more when it is just out of their grasp....
Keep working on yourself... You don't want her in control... She obviously doesn't have the best interests of the marriage in mind. The moment you actually let go is when YOU finally take CONTROL.. My advice would be to politely decline the next hug saying "I don't think that is a good idea given our situation" Of course every melty man hear would KILL to have some affection from their spouse, but in reality it only shows how weak you are... Show her that you are in charge, you decide what is best for you... yep you will miss out on some much needed love, but you will GAIN an enormous amount of RESPECT... Remember divorce busting isn't about what makes sense, it's about doing what works... Being in control of yourself WORKS
