Sitting in my house all alone...

[FellOnBlackDays]

Navy,
Let me also say "Welcome to the group that no one ever wanted to be a part of..." But, there are some AWESOME folks on here with a ton of experience.

My first piece of advice to you would be this. If you have some dead time on hour hands, don't spend it just beating yourself up. Get on this forum and start reading about the situations many of us are in. I found it so helpful to read these posts and realize that even though I thought I was being singled out to suffer, I was wrong. Almost every story on here has something in common with another situation on another member's post. Why is this important? Because it will help you to understand that you are not the first person to make mistakes and you are not the first person to end up in a bad marital situation. This was really, really helpful for me. When my W left, I thought I was all alone. Then I found this forum and it has really helped to change my perspective. So, just pick a post and start reading. I promise you, you will find numerous stories just like yours here. And, that is a good thing, I promise.

Visit here often. You can come her to cry, vent, celebrate, ponder, whatever you like. Imagine if you will being snatched from your bed in the middle of the night and locked in a room with a bunch of strangers. After some time, you began to talk to the strangers and they started filling you in on what goes on in this "prison," so to speak. Wouldn't it feel good to have a bit of insight as to what is ahead? Well, my friend, that is what you will find here. A bunch of folks that have been here for some time and can help you with what is coming your way.

Glad to have another service member on board. You are not supposed to share too much personal info here, but I would guess it would be OK to let you know that I served in the USN myself during Desert Storm. I loved my time in the service. Sometimes I wish I would have stayed in.

Take care of yourself, eat right, exercise and come here for help whenever you are in trouble. There are some AWESOME folks on here. You will be amazed at the friendship and support you will find here.

Remember, the only easy day here is yesterday!

Keep your head up!

FOBD