W Left almost 3 months ago

[mj144]

2step,
You are doing a lot better than you think you are. It is very easy to continue to beat yourself up over and over again, but all that does is keep you in the same spot. You need to move forward, progress with healing. FOBD has great insight and listen to what he speaks. Especially about expectations. I find myself doing it, we all do, but it sure is a good way to lessen the pain. Don't have any.

There is one thing that I notice from your thread, which I just read completely. Your conversations with your W when you stay away from R talk are light, she opens up to you she talks about herself and her day. When I talk to my wife, it is simply about logistics, mostly about my kids. I couldn't get her to open up to me and talk about anything. I ask her about any subject, and if I even get 2 words from her, I feel blessed. The fact that she engages in those types of conversations with you is a very positive sign.

Keep it up. You are doing great!

B.I.T.S.