Her Mom is disabled and until we moved to Jersey she was the primary care taker. When she left her and moved the sister has assumed that role. Mother and sister would give her constant guilt trips all the time about this until one day W told them that if they were going to call only to convince her to leave me then they should probably stop calling. Also her closest friend here was cheerleading the separation. I read the emails before my W left. She knew that I knew about the mother and sister and that is why she made that comment. Letting me know that it was not her mother or sister it was her decision.
On the second point I agree. She practically ran out of the house. Initially she was going to leave in November but the tension got pretty bad in the house because I was pissed and felt betrayed and angry and she decided to leave sooner.
On the third I would say that everything I tried to do was to make her happy but I came up short towards the last 4-5 months. My wife is the total opposite of me when it comes to temper. She is the one who never rocks the boat, quick with a smile and a kind word she avoids confrontation at all cost. I on the other hand don't mind it too much. Not necessarily with her but I am not a push over. When I feel I am right I don't back down easily I will argue till I am dead unless you prove me wrong then I am quick to say "OK I am wrong. You win" The last few months she began to take on my personality and became very combative and things began to escalate quickly. With my mother living with me she felt as if everyone in the house came before her. Like I no longer respected her.
A few weeks before she "planned her escape" she came to me and said "I think your mom needs to stay somewhere else for awhile" We had just argued and I said "No. You can't make me chose between you and my mother that is unfair" She simply said "OK" not another word was said. At that moment I think she made her decision.
It's hard when you can actually go back and pinpoint the turning point in this whole thing.
By this time I was sick of the arguing and the constant back and forth and actually felt peace when she left, but that lasted just a few short weeks. Once I figured out what she was saying, well you know how it went...........
This is why she says I practically pushed her out the door.
