Wow, that's some hardcore counseling. I would say that I agree with what s/he is saying as how you should approach it. The way you deliver it can be the difference between night and day. Your C's no nonsense hard line approach the way you stated it can come across as demanding and confrontational. I think with they way you have been so successful DBing here in your last 2 encounters, you would be able to address your wife in a softer approach, yet with the boundaries necessary.
I think the analysis and concern of what your W may do come Monday morning is wasted energy on your part to worry about it. I pray for you that it doesn't happen that way. Unfortunately, what will happen, will happen. You worrying about what may or may not happen will tear you up.
The one thing you need to hang onto is the fact that she is in a fog and there may be no madness to her method of why she is doing things in which particular way. She could simply be doing the kitchen one day while she can arrange things herself at her new place and the big stuff moving on Sunday may simply be because that is when she can get the help to do so. Moving into a new place takes a lot of work and she may simply be doing over the course of 2 days due to logistics.
Either way, pal, we will all be thinking about you tomorrow and Sunday and sending you good thoughts and strength to make it through. Continue to fight the good fight my man, you can do it.
B.I.T.S.
M42 W38 D5D7 M8 Living as 'roomates' since 9-12-10 Moved out 1-7-11 FIL threatened to kill me 1-20-11
