Stick around and post often a lot of us here are in similar situations. My W is 1500 miles away and left three months ago today. For the first 3 weeks we didn't speak at all, this was her healing and thinking time. I was going insane and every minute of the day I was checking my phone still do.
When she first contacted me it was all business but the conversation lasted two hours. At the time I had just read DR and it was fresh in my mind for a few weeks after communication started to go pretty smoothly I thought but she said some really hurtful things. By Christmas time I had lost all memory of the book and started to get a little frustrated and sent her a short text telling her I was done. My goal was to get some sort of emotion out of her well, I did. On Jan 5th she filed.
Recently I bought another copy of DR and started practicing LRT and reading the book again and communication has improved. I also got the DB counseling.
Moral of the story; Read the book often and REALLY stick to the principles. I am learning along the way and have made many mistakes but I have found this website to be a real lifesaver for me. At this point I really have no idea what is going to happen but stick around.
True Gritt:
I have read some of your post and really appreciate your advice and insight I would love your thoughts on my sitc
