When the pain of the addiction is greater than the considerable pain of recovery, then he will begin the process. For now, he is just showing you his pain. Carry on with your life! Whatever you are doing is contributing to the progress that is 1 steps forward, 2 steps back. Be happy, and when X wants to fix things, let him fix them, as a gift to your children. There will be no doubt in your mind that he is ready to be a better man. He will be able to make it very clear to you. Then you can think and make decisions. The best thing that ever happened to him may not be available. I tried to misunderstand TJ's overtures as just friendly, but he made sure I knew otherwise. You X will too. Peace be with you!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
