Stunned

While I normally wouldn't steer someone over to the Mid Life Crisis Forum right away, it might be a good idea that you read the resources over there.

After you read you can determine if that (MLC) is what you're dealing with.

In any event you will find support here.

Keep posting.

Can you give your and your W's age?

Also I can surmize that growing up with a bipolar mother she meets the criteria of childhood trauma.

Usually there is something to trigger the MLC, is there anything you can point to recently (last couple of years)?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am