1) Whatever you decide to do this weekend, we WILL be here for you even if it is to pick up the pieces of your broken heart.
2) Not sure I agree with the MC, but heck, I'm here and he's not. But here's my problem with this, it will be escalating an already bad situation. I really subscribe to the theory that we want to be a light in the fog. I really think that we want to do what we can to stabilize the situation rather than escalate it.
3) I agree with him that you are going to be hurting after this. No doubt. I do not agree that you gave her control because you made the list after she handed you the original one. You made the decisions.
4) I do agree about the money. I don't think that you should be giving her a dime, but what do I know? I'm not there, I don't know the specifics and it's pretty easy for me to make a judgment without all the info. But I wouldn't give her a dime.
5) She could get a L on Monday if you escalate the situation. Look over the threads, FOBD. Time after time, we see S's are filing right after one of us decided to escalate.
6) You are going to be back in his office regardless.
7) You absolutely need to exhibit control. You need to try not to let your emotions beat you this weekend. I agree that you need to keep the time interactions involved with moving out to a minimum. Do NOT let her drag this out. I believe someone should be there with you. But, I still believe you are doing the right thing at the end of the day.
I wish I didn't disagree so much. And I know that others will not agree with me. The LAST thing I want to do is screw with your head and confuse you more. It's the worst place to be.
Whatever you decide to do, there are people here who care and will be here. Period.
