I've of course thought about that. I would honestly come out with guns blazing...
"W, I asked you to no longer communicate with OM. We have learned together in the past ? Days what D will do to our children/family. We've learned that we had a great opportunity to make our M better then ever. You've chosen a different path. I hope you made the right decision. Please find another place to sleep and you have 60 days to move out."
If she didn't do as I asked I would file for D the next day. I can't have OM in her life. Because I believe mine is to valuable to allow it.
I realize this method is not for everyone bit it's the only method I can see using.
Supporting W while she sees OM? Over my dead body!
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012