How to Save Your Marriage During an Affair

[Truegritter]

not to mention treating me like a doormat.

All this did was destroy any self-respect I had left for myself

YOU are a doormat as long as you think you are a doormat.

And you are responsible for your self respect. It is too valuable a thing to leave it to the whim of a WAS.

Your choices define you and your self respect.

NOT the choices of another.

So

how can it get worse?

You walk away from this because someone injured and stole your self respect by cheating on you and when you exposed their affair and demanded

I DO NOT SHARE MY WIFE WITH ANOTHER MAN !!!!!

You got divorced and became a statistic and walk around with a dumb look on your face because you placed your self respect and your own choices based on the actions or inaction of another...

And so you will always be beholden to that with your current spouse or anyone you choose down the road.

Taking the path advocated above by MWD

Can provide you with time and an OPPORTUNITY not a GUARANTEE

To save your M and at the very least help you heal from this tragedy.

It is the tougher road and the less traveled. It is not what most people choose I grant you.

I am only speaking from my own experience and there is no one anwer for everyone.

Someone's six months is another person's 2 years.

It depends on the individual.

Putting your faith in timelines is the same as putting faith in any tactic you try to get your spouse back.

When it doesn't work? Where do you go?

Choose for YOU.

The point being, control what you can control...

YOU and your choices.