just some thoughts from B

[AntoniaB]

Yeah I think we're all probably saying the same thing just in different words/expressions.

It's funny how everything sort of reverses in time or switches place. All that time we were together--even in the past few years--I was so sure things were terrific. I guess you learn to ignore things or deny if the alternative--confronting the problems--is a big threat to your security. Now I'm kind of glad to have woken up to my OWN problems. And to our joint problems, because frankly, any future rel. I have will be VERY different than our marriage. I'm thinking that he's now in the place that I was--that denial. Because as long as you're in denial, you can avoid working on yourself. It's a seductive place to be, but I am glad that I got forced into dealing with myself finally because I am SO much stronger for it.